I read an article that talked about different Love Languages.

First of all, what's a Love Language? It simply means how one expresses their love/affection to others and how one would like to receive love/affection.

5 Broad Categories:

1) Physical Intimacy
It could be in the form of kisses, hugging or even holding hands


2) Create Quality Time Together
It means making time for your partner regardless how busy you are

Expressing your love/affection through the pressies picked specially for your partner






4) Caring Actions
It could be in the form of fulfilling basic needs such as earning a salary or simple tasks like whipping a meal






5) Appreciative Words
Saying thank you

Have you ever thought that love can actually be expressed in many different forms. Most of us will show affection for people we love. But many times, we fail to recognize the correct "language". Instead, we express affection using the manner that we would like to receive affection, failing to recognize the differences in people.

For me, I ranked it in this manner, in the order of importance

1) Create Quality Time Together
2) Physical Intimacy

Content of the pressies is not important, what it matter is the thoughts.

If you notice, most of the Love Language is not tangible. In fact, the most tangible option, one that you can touch & feel physically is Presents/Gifts. We can always take out a pressie to look at it anytime.

Through the pressies, it also reflects how well you know a person. You can tell a difference between a well-thought present & a last-minute purchased one.

Moreover, pressies bring happiness & joys to both the giver and the receiver.

But, we cant be giving/receiving pressie everyday, so I decide that Presents/Gifts got to be my last option.



Something hard to do, especially for Asian people.

Just like you dun thank your mum for cooking dinner for you or your dad for giving you pocket money.

So we dun thank your bf for holding your bag or your gf for cooking a meal.

Still, I think we should not treat all these good gestures for granted, so appreciative words at time do warm the heart.

But again, saying "Thank you" for every single things sound a bit fake, or rather too polite.

I just attended a church wedding recently, which turned out to be quite "entertaining". The pastor shared a lot of stories and experiences, which I decided to share some of it here... ^_^

Before marriage, bf waited for the gf, no matter how late she was. 1 hour seemed to be only a minute passed when the couple were still blindly in love... No imperfection existed.

After marriage, the wife was late for a minute, but to the husband it seemed like eternity. To him, it felt like an hour had passed instead. Impatience, therefore, kicked in.

Before marriage, the bf held the LV bag/ Gucci bag for the gf. Nothing was impossible for the sake of the gf, even if it was at the expense of diminishing the macho image.

After marriage, the wife was asking the husband to hold the NTUC bags that contained necessities for the married couple. However, the husband asked "You dont have hands meh?"

So what has changed? We are still looking at the same set of couple, nothing has changed, only the threshold of expectation & tolerance has changed.

Our threshold to tolerate the shortcomings of our partners decrease, while the threshold of them meeting our expectations increase.

But marriage is not about changing our partners. If there is any changes to be made, it can only be ourselves. If we are able to change ourselves ( our thinkings, our expectations), everything else will change as well..

An Indian husband saw that his ang mo neighbour husband always kiss and hug the wife when he went to work, and back home. Indian husband was contemplating whether to do the same to his own wife. Finally, he decided to do it one day, expecting the wife to be very happy.

Alas, it turnedout otherwise. The Indian wife wailed out loudly instead.

She said: " The washing machine is spolit. The dinner is burnt and the kids are crying. And you, you came back drunk!" Shaking her head as usual...

The moral of the story? You just have to be the best for your partners always. Not only when you are lovingly dating, or in the honeymoon period. It should be a conscious decision to always be your best everyday, every time simply because you should "save" the best for your most loved ones.

You will present a good image in your workplace, be a best pal with your friends, so why shouldnt we be in our best for someone who will live and age together?

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The couple should be committed to each other and to remain committed, they need to communicate. It shouldnt be a one way traffic, with the husband keeping quiet and the wife rattling. Each partner should have their fair chance of being the listener and the speaker.

I went to Giraffe for bf's bdae dinner, since it was near SMU's settlers cafe. What I wanna stressed here is, we went there not because we thought it was really good, but simply for the reason that it was near the place we were going after dinner. Keke

Giraffe has been there ( opp PS) for quite some time, but it was my first time, & probably the last time, there. I guess probably the location is a great disadvantage, with competitors clustered at PS which is directly linked to the MRT station. Unless it is really impressive, otherwise I dun see why I should make the "extra mile" across the road...

Lazy is the word to describe me, but there are a lot of people like me! * Standing proud*

If I can get passable or better food somewhere near, why should I walk a distance for another passable food? Weird logic but very true hor... =p

The fact is, Giraffe is really not impressive, it is just a very normal restaurant selling somewhat fusion food. The minute I started to look through the menu, I really couldn't decide what to order.. Why? Because there wasn't much choices to begin with. First points deduction.

I ordered salmon in teriyaki sauce and I was served one slab of salmon soaked in teriyaki. Yup, there was all. I was expecting some soba to go along with the salmon. Ok, I admitted it was my own mistake. The menu didnt state that there was any soba, I kinda assumed so.

But com'on, do you expect such a dish to be listed as a main course? It wasnt filling at all, yet I was charged a main course rate, I think the price was around $13 - $16, before other charges. It was definitely overpriced. Second points deduction.

Third points deduction was the service. You see, they got this 1-1 drinks before 9pm. We were there at 7pm and all of us ordered main course and some side dishes. Btw, I was with a group of friends. Since it was raining, we decided to stay around for drinks, and wanted to ride on the promotion. The timing was around 9pm then. We tried to call for service, but somehow all the waiter and waitress were busy. When finally a waitress came to us, it was slightly after 9pm, and we were told the promotion ended.

Hmm, is that a strategy to cut cost, I dunno? But I would think that since we were a big group and we had already spent around $100+, it wont kill to allow us to have the promotion. To begin with, it wasnt really our fault since we couldnt get anyone to attend to us before 9pm. They did extend the offer to us after the waitress went to her manager when we tried reasoning (nicely) to her, but the "mood" was just not there. Anyway, we rejected the promotion and went other places for drinks. Haha...

Dun get me wrong, the food was not awful. It's just a bad experience, coupled with limited choices and stronger competitors around the area, so that's why I said I probably will not think of going back there.

You can still go ahead to try......... if you cant think of an alternative of course!

Talking about that, we went to this chill-out place at Ann Siang Hill called The Gem with bf's friends after dinner. Real cool, with its comfy couches and classy chandeliers. It offers nice ambiance for drinks & chit-chat, without the need to shout since the music was soft. Since it is resided in the CBD area, it is not crowded on a Satuaday night. In fact, we walked in at around 9+pm, with a group of 9 pax. Yet, we managed to get a nice cozy area.

If you are thinking why I never take pictures as usual, because I DUN HAVE DSLR CAMERA LA! The place was so dim, the pictures wont turn out nice one lah! =p

Since Double Bay was conveniently located at Raffles City, I decided to check this out with a fren. We arrived at Double Bay at around 6+pm on a Thursday night, which was still relatively empty. You can choose between indoor or alfresco dining. Weather was damn hot these few days, needless to say, we chosen the comfort of air con dining... keke

The menu is not considered extensive, mainly fishes. Other than that, they do offer other mains as well for those who opt to be different.

The signature dish is of coz Fish & Chips, which comes in 3 choices of batter - beer, coriander with butter or breaded. There is also more variety in the fish types offered, not the typical dory fish. Prices wise is of the higher end of $20+ or more.

As you can see, the fish is served in 3 small pieces, paired up with generous serving of fat chips and salad. My gal fren couldn't finish her plate even though other reviews were commenting that the serving does not justified the cost. Well, guess it's really up to individuals to decide whether the serving is considered big, small or just nice.

I find the fish fresh and the batter was not too overwhelming, just enough to give you a tinge of crispiness. Personally, I dun fancy Fish & Chips, coz many places tend to serve fish that are not fresh and simply fried the fish to cover up. Some places served batter that were so much that you found yourself eating batter rather than fish. * Shrugged *

I ordered grilled cod fish instead as I was having slight sore throat then. The serving was really small, definitely not enough to feed a man. The sides were just mashed potato and some vege. The taste was alright but just not as "attractive" as the Fish & Chips.

Overall, I will definitely just go for Fish & Chips rather than other dishes if I'm here again. It's kinda pricy ( we paid around $30+ each after all taxes & svcs) for everyday meal. But if you do feel like splurging on a Fish & Chips, I think Double Bay makes a nice choice.

A lot of people are commenting that Fish & Chips are better at Greenwood Fish Market. I've never been there before, so I cant really compare. But for me who dun really drives around, Greenwood is too troublesome to go. Ya, so if I consider accessibility as a decision tree criteria, I think Double Bay wins... hahaha

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DOUBLE BAY
Venue: Raffles City Shopping Centre, #01-22A
Contact: 6334 6530

I went to Illuma some time ago and realised that it was kinda empty.. most of the shops were still vacant, and the clothes shop were either selling clothes that were auntie-ish or for males... Well, nvm I thought, I could still go to Illuma for food??

Ha, after trying 3 places, I decided perhaps not.... *Pondering*

First, I went to Empire State. The monkey-theme really attracted me, but the food menu wasnt really fantastic. In fact, it seemed like a copied version of New York New York, the usual stuff of pizza, salad, burgers, shakes and blended drinks etc.

But what really put me off was the service. It was not the attitude of the staff, in fact, they were quite friendly. However, when we tried to order the food, most of them were not available. Mind you, it was still before dinner time and most of their food were out of stock??

If so, they should have told us when we were at the entrance or when we were seated. Instead, they waited until we had "happily" browsed through the menu and finally decided on what to eat, then they told " this was not available, that was not available". What a damper! Humpt...

Teriyaki Pizza - $12.90

Consists of grilled chicken, shitaka mushrooms, sweet onions and cheese

Anyway, we settled for just a pizza so that we could check out the other eateries. Well, might as well mah....keke

The pizza was quite nice, with lotza cheese... I like! But hor, we could not taste or find any shitake mushrooms in the pizza even though the menu said so. Most likely, the shitake mushrooms were out of stock AGAIN? Ha...

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So how? Based on the pictures, would you order these dim sums? If you do, then I must have done a very good job in "glorifying" the food because they tasted... horrible...

For those with weak stomachs, perhaps you wanna skip the following photos, i.e the "remains" of our orders ... they were really quite disgusting.... hoho

This was the prawn & mango roll's skin. As you can see, we only ate the filling coz the skin was too thick and oily. Either they were using overnight oil or they were using really poor quality oil, tasted so much of stale oil... yucks!

I ordered this because I had such good memories of those sold at Crystal Jade. For those who never try custard buns before, I will recommend you to try those at Crystal Jade, especially those with sweet tooth. The skin was soft and the custard was just the right sweetness! Really nice! ^_^

Anyway, it was still okay here, meaning I can still stomach it. However, it was far from my expectation. The weird bun skin colour dint help also. Keke

So overall, we left the place with a table of food. At first, we thought the waitress would probably ask why dint we finish it, so that we could feedback mah... Alas, she just cleared the table nia, dint really do the extra mile....

* Shrugged*

I will definitely not be going back there man...

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Cheeky Frozen Hot Chocolate - $5.90

Frozen hot chocolate ice blended, served with whipped cream, chocolate sauce and shavings

This was damn jerlat! If you are chocolate lover, you most likely will like it! But hor, it was definitely not thirst quenching hor... so thick!!!! But no worries, they served water here... heng ar... =p

Caramelized Banana Delights - $8.90

Caramelized banana slices wrapped in 2 crepes, topped with dark chocolate sauce and a scoop of chocolate ice cream

I bought the hot dogs from Cold Storage just in case my pancake and scrambled egg had to end up in the rubbish bin. Heng ar, all ere edible and we are still healthy up to now... ^_^